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From Survival to Invincibility

by Jennifer Read Hawthorne

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From Survival to Invincibility Like so many, I have been subjected to the volatile world markets and the global economic events wreaking havoc in people’s lives in recent months. I’ve watched retirement funds shrivel, and in some cases, lost everything I had invested with what I thought were trustworthy, competent money managers.

At moments, I have felt despair, even terror, at what the future might hold, not only for me personally but for our country as a whole. But since dwelling on the future   tends to be an exercise in suffering, I’ve discovered that the best way to survive this crisis is to turn my attention away from the material and dive headlong into the psycho-spiritual realms to look for the underlying grace, lessons, and opportunities of these trying times.

I continue to make the most intelligent decisions possible regarding finances. But I’ve also discovered some invaluable “spiritual tools” that have the power to move us from survival mode to invincibility, from a “tough times” mentality to a sense of peace and freedom.

1. Unhook from collective consciousness. At this moment in history, the collective consciousness is running fear, tension, conflict and worry. It is imperative to “unhook” yourself from this mass mind. What does this mean? First, avoid or cut back time spent watching and reading the news. Bye-bye, CNN. Sorry, Morning Joe. I loved you pre-election, but watching endless minute-to-minute, blow-by-blow details of recession, climbing unemployment, stimulus packages and unfailing head-butting between Democrats and Republicans is not contributing to my good health. And if you’re one of the unlucky people who’s lost your job, it will definitely NOT help to put your attention on how bad things are.

2. Start raising your frequencies. Everything in the universe is energy, and, like a light bulb or a radio or television set, we are always emitting certain energy frequencies. Now is the time to become aware of our own energies and to shift away from frequencies of fear and worry into frequencies of hope, trust, confidence (or faith) and realistic optimism.

How do you do this? If you believe in a Higher Power, start connecting daily! Any activity that brings awareness to the divine will shift you instantly into higher frequencies. For example, I recently discovered some exquisite novenas that I have begun saying in a prescribed way to saints who have been known to assist in physical healings, creation of abundance, overturning impossible causes, etc. Although I’m not Catholic, the prayers sing to my heart and carry me through the day with a sense of knowingness that things are going to get better (they already are as a result of this activity).

I also have a great affinity for Sanskrit mantras and chants to the divine, and I’ve started listening to them every day. As I do, I find my joy increasing to the point that I often surrender to the impulse even to get up and dance! This is a long way from the terror I was feeling just a short time ago when trying to figure out how I’m going to retire.

Get a copy of John Randolph Price’s The Abundance Book, and do the 40-Day Prosperity Plan.
If you’re in a 12-Step program, work it!
If you don’t believe in a Higher Power, dance. Or do anything to help you ground yourself in your body. Fear and worry reside in the mind, so find ways to laugh (the quickest way out of the mind), move (as in walking or physical activity), and nourish your spiritual nature (we all have one), in the beauty of Nature by taking a walk in a beautiful spot.
And regardless of your beliefs, make time for meditation and/or silence every day, even for a few moments.

3. Practice forgiveness.
So great is the powerlessness we human beings often feel when life doesn’t turn out the way we wanted or expected it to, we often look for a way to assure ourselves it wasn’t our fault. We want to blame others for our misery and losses: It’s my broker’s fault that I got caught in the Bernie Madoff scandal. It’s my brother-in-law’s fault that I invested in risky commodities. It’s my manager’s fault that I lost my job. Regardless of the circumstances, we’d love it to be somebody else’s fault.

One exercise I find very effective when thoughts like these arise is the Five Steps of Forgiveness I learned from my friend and B.E.S.T. practitioner Jennifer C. Moyer (B.E.S.T. stands for Bio Energetic Synchronization Technique.) Based on the work of B.E.S.T. creator Dr. M.T. Morter, Jr., a leading innovator in health care, this technique moves us immediately from events to our feelings about them—a profound and immediate doorway to healing and higher frequencies. Start by picturing right in front of you the person, place or event that you are blaming. Identify the feelings you are having, such as resentful, angry, etc. Then do the following:

1. Say to yourself: I forgive myself for feeling (the feeling).
2. Say to the person: I forgive you for any harm you may have caused me by “causing” me to feel (the feeling).
3. Say to the person: I give you absolute permission to forgive me for any harm I may have caused you by feeling (the feeling).
4. See the Good and Be Grateful. Fill in these blanks: I am learning ________. I am grateful I am learning _______.
5. Imagine a cord whose one end is attached to you and the other to the person. Imagine giant scissors cutting it and see the cord disintegrate. Now, while you imagine the person, place or event fading away, say: I release you; I wish you well; God bless you. (I love you is optional.)
After a few times, you’ll be able to do this in as little as one minute. It will change your life.

4. Find your voice.
Most of the biggest mistakes I’ve made—financial and otherwise—have happened because I didn’t honor my own truth, the feelings inside that so clearly told me when I felt uncomfortable with something. Yet I moved right ahead, because someone I trusted said it was the right thing to do, or family members pressured me, or an image of what others might think of me if I didn’t, scared me so much I had to pretend my feelings were not real.

It may be a life-long lesson, this learning to trust ourselves, learning how NOT to betray ourselves. But when I am able to respond to people, events, deadlines, pressure, urgent decisions, etc. by saying things such as, “I need more time,” or “I’m not comfortable with that,” or “I made a mistake; here’s what I’d really like to do,” then I find a quiet joy underlying life’s challenges. Someone is finally standing up for me—ME!

Can you feel the energy underlying this kind of self-trust?  It’s a frequency that will not only keep you out of the contraction of not being true to yourself, but one that will lift and connect you to something more real than an IRA, whether you call it God, the Universe, Christ, Allah, Lakshmi, Self—or just My Center. It’s a wonderful, comfortable place to rest, and a place where answers will be given.

Jennifer Read Hawthorne is an inspirational speaker and author who has written or co-authored seven books, including Life Lessons for Loving the Way You Live and the #1 New York Times bestseller Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul. To book Jennifer for a keynote address or for more information, please visit her website at or call (612) 865-4550.

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