Affluent Magazine readers are wonderfully responsive, which makes it great fun to write articles and connect with you.
Several months ago I suggested readers email me your pet peeves and also your common courtesies. The response was overwhelming! A very sincere thank-you for sharing.
Guess what? We share many of the same social annoyances, and of course they are all very basic social skills. Also, I was thrilled to see the politeness you display on a regular basis – not because others are nice to you, but because you are genuinely kind.
Regarding your pet peeves: These are basic manners most people overlook or perhaps dismiss as “who really cares.” Obviously, our consensus states otherwise. Take a look at the list of pet peeves that most aggravate our readers … thus our culture.
List of pet peeves in no certain order
- Bad customer service! •Not receiving a thank-you note
- Texting during a conversation or while driving
- Those who eat with their mouth open or crunch on ice
- Those who pick their teeth with a tooth pick in public. (yes, it happens!)
- Not responding to an invitation ASAP
- Ringing phones in funerals, weddings and worship services
- Those who do not wave to acknowledge that you just allowed them to cut in front of you in traffic
- Coughing or sneezing without covering the mouth
- Parents who scream at their children - especially in public
- Those who neglect their pets
- Unreturned calls
- People who point at others or use their utensils to point across the table
- Too much cologne or perfume
- Being late
- Cell phones conversations in salons or spas
- People who dominate conversations
- Forwarded junk emails
- Those who should not park in handicap spaces
As you can see from the list above, getting along in our world is not really such a hard endeavor. If we could treat each other with common courtesies then tensions would not be agitated, and we could actually have the opportunity to make others feel respected.
Here’s your list of the common courtesies in no certain order you use to show kindness to others
- Open doors and hold them open for those approaching
- Say thank-you often
- Write thank-you notes
- Write notes/emails of encouragement
- Send birthday cards
- Remember special occasion/dates of friends
- Surprise others with unexpected gifts
- Bake and give treats
- Compliment frequently
- Apologize immediately
- Pray for others
- Run errands for friends
- Pay toll fee for next person
- Buy all the lemonade at neighborhood lemonade stand
- Be patient! (especially in traffic and anytime traveling)
- Visit friends in hospital
- Go to family reunions
- Say I love you
When we quit thinking about ourselves long enough to think of others - great things happen. We do good for others and in turn, it ends up doing more for us than for them.
As I have said in the past and will reinforce it again - we must examine our own common courtesies and work on changing ourselves to be the very best that we can be. We must set an example for others and teach our children common sense, and in turn … we will change the world – together!
Joy Weaver is a renowned etiquette expert and author of “Just Ask Joy… How to Be Socially Savvy in All Situations”—a book highly endorsed by Jean and Zig Ziglar. Joy represents designer Joseph Ribkoff and is a regular guest on ABC’s Good Morning Texas. She is nationally published and has been featured on ABC’s The View, in the Associated Press, New York Times, USA Today, Southern Living Magazine, Dallas Morning News, and The Dallas Business Journal. Protocol Enterprises/Just Ask Joy is based in Dallas and has served clients across the country since 2000. You can learn more at www.justaskjoy.com
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