Normally when I write about a purpose and aim, I am referring to a compelling life purpose that expresses your true leadership. It’s the kind of leadership that gives your life meaning, is fueled by passion, and makes a difference for you and those around you.
The two questions most commonly asked: How do I know what that is and how do I access it?
First, you pay attention to those little things you commit to memory. Things worthy of remembering or notable are called memorable, and we commit to memory only that which is relevant to our conscious and unconscious mind. The little things that we don’t consciously see as memorable are the memories we may want to heed when searching for purpose and aim.
For example, this thought occurred to me recently while reading Napoleon Hill’s original book “Think and Grow Rich.” It was one of those books I had heard mentioned several times, but hadn’t made it into my library yet.
However, I have a “rule of three” to address my unconscious mind’s shrewd memory. Whenever something catches my attention at least three times, I take action because something inside it is trying to communicate. So I bought the book.
When I began reading, I knew why. It wasn’t about getting rich. That’s why I wasn’t paying attention the first two times. I needed some inspiration.
The relevancy for me was the part about desire and action. Hill stated up front, “DESIRE is the starting point of all ACHIEVEMENT,” but it is not just desire; a definite and BURNING desire.
This reminded me of my unique purpose and aim and a burning desire to empower extraordinary unstoppable leadership in life of all those I meet. That desire ignites from a flame of passion.
Unfortunately, a spark of passion is barely alive for some people, and for others, passion is an inferno of anger raging inside. We all experience varying degrees of passion throughout each season in a year and during our lives.
Though Hill’s focus was on what he learned about the money-making secrets of the more than five hundred wealthy men he studied, clearly the message conveyed applied to anything you want to achieve.
To achieve that which you desire most, you must be willing to overcome your fears and move into purposeful action. It’s far too easy to operate on auto pilot and live a life of happenstance.
In essence, Hill’s book could have easily been titled “Think and Grow
____.” You fill in the blank of your desire.
How does that apply to the upcoming holidays and you? I desire to empower you, and myself, this holiday season with purpose and aim from our heart, mind, and spirit.
First, we know that holidays are a time of great joy for many, and for some extreme stress and anxiety. No other time of the year has the ability to evoke such a mixture of positive and negative emotions.
It is also a time when we routinely open our hearts those we love, as well as those less fortunate, in order to spread some hope and cheer.
Do we do it purposefully?
To explore how to do this, let’s look at the four seasons in a year, each with a universal meaning:
- Spring is for planting and sprouting
- Summer is for tending and nurturing
- Fall is for harvesting and preserving
- Winter is for dying back and hibernating
How can you take all your seasons this year and wrap them as your gift this holiday for those you love?
What ideas, activities, or desires will you plant and sprout? (purpose) Who will you tend and nurture? (aim) What memories will you harvest and preserve? (achievement) Will you just sit back and hibernate, or spring into action?
For humans, winter is not the season of dying back and hibernating like in plant life. It is the perfect time for human gardening. It is the time of the year for cultivating goodwill, sowing joy, and sprouting love around you. It is the culmination of one more year (gift of life) on this earth.
Creating a memorable holiday is simply a process of aligning your heart, mind, and spirit with purpose and aim, then taking the action you need to achieve what you desire. There’s no better time to realize that you do have a unique purpose and aim on this planet.
Whether you want to host a wonderful family gathering, find a memorable gift, attend a holiday party, or help someone in need, it’s all about how you express your love, passion, and leadership. Doing so - I guarantee - will make this holiday season memorable for you and those around you.
Best wishes from my heart for an extraordinary season.
Debra J. Slover is an award winning author and founder of the Leadership Garden® Legacy and Fund. As a philanthropist, through the U.N.I.Q.U.E. series of youth and adult leadership empowerment tools, and Cultivation Grants, Debra promotes the use of leader-friendly gardening practices with a goal to create fertile ground for youth to thrive by empowering the leader within everyone. Her expertise stems from 34 years empowering youth and adult leadership in school and community environments both statewide and nationally. A mother of five/grandmother of seven, she resides with her husband in Albany, Oregon. Visit: www.LeadershipGardenLegacy.com