We all know that dreaded line, "We need to talk."
It's the kind of thing you hope you never hear...from a boss, your better half, a parent, or anyone else who plays an important role in your life.
But what happens when it's your body delivering the "time to face facts" news flash? What do you do when it's your body sending you the loud and clear message, "My friend, you are about to lose your good situation if things don't change, pronto."
This ultimatum typically shows up in the form of an unexpected illness, a health scare, an injury or that "Uh-oh" moment when you abruptly realize you're in deep kimchi.
So, why not have THE talk now, before your body forces you into it? Why not hit things straight on and ask your body directly, "What can I do, right now, to improve my relationship with you?"
If your body was your boss the response might be...
(Remember, this is your body talking here...) First and foremost, be a professional. If you make an appointment to take me to the gym, treat me like a VIP. Don't just pencil me in like a "maybe." Then, if it turns out you can't make it, reschedule our time together. Don't just drop me like a hot potato and then expect to stay in business.
As your body, I rely on you to get your projects done: cardio, strength training, a decent amount of sleep and plenty of fresh water and whole foods. No, not everything you do for me is fun, but the real payoff is in the results. I mean, you do want the compensation, right? Well then, do the work and do it well.
Don't forget, I am ultimately the one who decides whether you stick around or not, and my intention is to keep you here for a long, long time. So, take care of business, will you? You don't always have to be overjoyed about it, just be consistent, stay focused on your goals, and keep moving forward. Heck, you might even earn that bonus six-pack you've been hoping for.
If your body was your better half it might say...
I'd like more quality “alone" time with you - working out, resting, laughing, maybe an occasional massage, or just some quiet time planning out ways you can take better care of me. You are so focused on work, your family and your friends; sometimes it seems like you'll never get around to me. Of course, I could try getting your attention by making your pants a little tighter or by nagging you with that sore shoulder, but it would be so much nicer if you could just start treating me better. All I ask is that you listen a little closer to what I'm saying.
Every once in a while (every day actually) I'd like for you to feed me a decent meal. Some fresh veggies or grilled fish or chicken would be nice. And, please, skip the fancy sauces and double portions. I don't need them and, besides, they make me feel awful afterwards.
And, one more thing…could you try making our private conversations a little kinder, a little softer, a little more uplifting? Honestly, I wouldn't wish some of that mean-spirited chatter on even my worst enemy. Lighten up a little and don't beat yourself up so much.
If your body was your parent it might say...
As your body, all I want is for you to be happy, BUT, I also want you to make me proud. When you take care of the important stuff, like eating right, exercising and getting enough rest, you walk taller, you accomplish more, you become a better leader, and your life is more meaningful and productive in every way.
So, as your body, I'm telling you to have fun, experience life, but be responsible and never forget, I'm here to support you. After all…we are in this together.
Dianne Orwig is a personal development coach, motivational speaker, fitness expert, and founder of LivingFit Online, a program that has helped thousands of men and women transform their bodies and live healthier, happier lives though her synergistic approach to fitness. For more information, go to www.lovelivingfit.com
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